Dear Brothers, Dear Sisters Listen Up

Way too many guys pay attention to women based on THEIR attraction level. They will waste their time and hard earned money on a woman who is not attracted to them at all. It's always a better experience to go out with someone who's just as excited and enthusiastic to be with you compared to someone who you have to warm up. You should want to spend time with women who appreciate and value your time. Always pay attention to her action, not what she says. Date smarter, not harder.

If you only take Backshot selfies then it simply means you are seeking attention. This is a classic example of approval seeking behavior. In other words, this feeds the posters ego or need for attention. Classy women, on the other hand, don't crave for attention and limit their excessive sexuality to a man who has earn their heart, mind, and soul. Learn to leave the rest to a man's imagination or else you'll continue to attract the majority of men who ONLY want to play bedroom gymnastics with you.  Beauty should come from your inner power.  

Good men and women are out there but it all starts with YOU, your way of thinking and how you carry yourself. If you don’t change your mindset you will continue to be attracted to losers, users, and abusers.  Ask yourself, do your actions show how you expect to be treated?  Are you willing to make your needs known?  When you don't self-reflect it  will create a false belief that good men and women don’t exist and you will continue to miss out on people who possess integrity, treat you with respect and show you love on a consistent basis.     

When women sense weakness in their men, especially when they act needy, fearful and insecure, they typically will back away. A weak man has weak principles, weak morals, and no backbone. A woman simply cannot trust a man like this. Because weak men have difficulty getting their own needs met they won’t be able to meet the needs of those dependent on them. So if you're one of those men who ALWAYS agree or change your opinion to please her then non-verbally you're displaying weakness. Change your mindset.

Watch out for the 'Leech brothers'. These particular brothers LOVE to live off sisters. They have no ambition and will purposely try to get you pregnant if you allow them to. They mostly like to target sisters who have their act together or those who sadly believe they can mold him into a responsible man. Be mindful of a brother who always pitches a sob story about his life, refuse to improve himself, has no car, no place of his own, no job, etc.

We hear this all the time that men are supposed to be the hunters and do whatever it takes to win a woman’s heart.  That may be true to a certain extent but I would advise my fellow brothers to not take this at full-face value.  Most men have been taught this method growing up including myself.  Truthfully with this way of thinking, there is no balance in place between both parties and if a relationship was to blossom the structure or foundation will be lopsided.  Let me give you an example…. I knew this fellow brother who’s been single for a very long time.  He has a great career yet does not have a companion by his side.  I noticed, whenever he sees a beautiful woman he gets excited (like a little boy in the candy store) which sends out desperation energy in which women can sense.  A few reasons why he’s been lonely for a long time is related to his approach structure and preconceived notion of desperately chasing a woman until she changes h...

Is it okay to ask a man to pay for your basic necessities if you’re not in a committed relationship?  I would say from a man’s point of view if there are NO ‘Rules of Engagement’ established and you decided to skip the friend zone/intimacy stage then that man is NOT obligated to pay your bills.  This is a VERY common trait that a lot of women fall for and believe that their ‘sexual temple’ has MORE value than a man’s ‘sexual jewels’ and that’s definitely not the case.  No woman’s ‘sexual temple’ alone can control a man or force him to pay her bills in exchange for amazing sex and I’ll tell you why.  Men are visual and sexual in nature and most ‘Financial wolves’ understand the concept that you have the same thing between your legs that billions of other women have too!  They will use their verbal skills and financial power to hook you in just to smash your chocolate chip cookies and will give you the illusion of being a good provider, a great man or one...

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In about two months Mel and I will be publishing our book Dear Brothers Dear Sisters Listen Up! We want to take a few minutes to give you an overview of the book. Dear Brother, Dear Sisters Listen Up! is a knowledge guide that contains advice on how to avoid the traps and pitfalls that accompany dating and relationships for both men and women. This book covers the groundwork that will help individuals grow themselves into positive relationship ready form so that they are prepared for true love when it arrives. Each chapter exposes the reader to fundamentally dysfunctional behaviors that work against healthy relationships by explaining philosophy’s behind relationship dynamics. Short fictional examples of failed relationships are provided to give readers the opportunity to assess problems by taking an observer perspective. Each chapter also contains experienced solutions that will help to change the way individuals view relationships and love. The knowledge within D...

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I knew this fellow brother who’s been single for a very long time.  Has a great career yet does not have a companion by his side.  I noticed, whenever he sees a beautiful woman he gets excited (like a little boy in the candy store).  Listen he said to himself that he is tired of being solo.  A few reasons why he’s been solo for a very long time is related to his approach structure and preconceived notion of chasing a woman until she changes her mind and settles down with him.  It was this one woman who was not interested he found very attractive that  he  felt she was the one for him.  At first he would buy her gifts, give her money but overtime it went from stage green (chasing) to stage yellow (desperation) to stage red (stalking).  I mean, my brother was showing up at her job announced.  Driving passed her gym to see if she’s available.  That’s what I call the  Pursuit Indicat...

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This generation seems to be drawn into the Hollywood land where propaganda rules everything.  Those who have no media literacy cannot tell the difference between fiction and non-fiction which can have dire consequences in our society.  Back then, TV was used as a medium to educate the masses, now cosmetic appearance replaced real base information.  It has even selected our new president Donald Trump.  This is why you must read between the lines when you are focus on the media.  One of my favorite movies which explained this theory pretty well is titled, “The Matrix” where the character Neo’s mind is imprison within an artificial reality.  I feel the same logic applies in today’s society because people now based their actions off of emotions instead of thinking things through.  I will give you an example, last year’s election quite honestly was based off of emotion.  Today’s politicians disregard issues affecting the American people.  Wha...

Men, you have the power to change.  Your standard of living and philosophical mindset based on thirsty behavior is not setting a good example.  Classy women will throw you automatically into the rejected pile if they sense this way of thinking.  What concerns me the most is how brothers market themselves onto the dating scene and the assumption they make when they speak to a beautiful woman.  Money flashers believe it is a walk in the park that they can get any woman they want.  Most thirsty men try to impress women with their financial assets.  They believe this technique will force a woman to throw herself at their feet. When fantasy becomes reality or they get rejected they proclaim that a woman is stuck up which is far from the truth.  To be honest, no sophisticated female wants to be whistle, bark at or grab in an awkward way from a stranger and I do not blame them.  I have a daughter, and I expect men to treat my little princess as a hu...

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Even though the printing press reinforced individualism and changed the structure of thinking I believe the internet made more of a cultural impact around the globe.    M ost newsworthy content are display on Facebook, Twitter and every other social media outlet you can think of.     Organizations understand this format which is why heavy reputable corporations such as CNN, New York Times, and The Wall Street Journal include this high technological structure to their system.    Institutions sole purpose is to make financial profit so it makes sense to converge the internet with their journalistic format.    The internet is most likely available everywhere, you can gain access to it on your smart phone, tablet, computer or even your game console just to name a few.    Information is within your grasp in a matter of seconds compare to obtaining a newspaper or magazine, seriously who wants to wait until your newspaper is deliver. ...

I NEVER understand why people are so desperate to get into a relationship without focusing on themselves.   Cuffing season has become the new norm in today's dating age and no wonder why there are so many incomplete relationships.   Shortcomings are bound to happen when you put in shortcoming efforts which equals shortcoming results...it's not rocket science.  When people market themselves in a particular way by showing their romantic side or being independent it is completely opposite when they are in a relationship.  For example, they unleash their bag of unlucky charms which cursed them from their last relationship hoping that their significant other will accept them.  Nine out of 10 that rarely happens and I will explain why.  Deceitful people brush their advertising promos underneath the rug and show who they truly are with nasty characteristic traits like clinginess, non-trustworthy ways and possessiveness.  By not practicing what you ...

Selling is everywhere around you, and most brothers who are not pros do it every day, in one form or another.   The reason why Thirsty Brothers get rejected or taking advantage of so often is because they are selling themselves as desperate boys.  If this is how you market yourself you will NEVER attract a real intellectual woman in your life.  You have to change your mindset from stalking women with thirsty tendencies and evolve into a confident Professional Persuader .  A Professional Persuader is a confident Man who is well grounded, intelligent and takes risks.  Verbal and non-verbal communications along with confidence are key elements in engaging real women.  As I mentioned in my previous blogs, men should always be the ones to make the first move ONLY if she shows that she is interested.  Men must make an informed decision about which women to approach.  A Professional Persuader can deduct a green flag to see if a woman is inte...

Here is a very critical rule when you first meet a woman…be confident in ALL your well-being.  The reason why confidence is such a key factor verbally and non-verbally is because it displays self-assurance from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities.  In the modern era, Thirsty Jokers approach women from the physical aspect instead of the mental aspect.  Women are very observable and will be impress with how you carry yourself including your body language and conversation.  However, Thirsty Jokers comes in many forms whether it is the one you see when the club is over then without h esitation  proceeds to grabs a woman’s arm without properly introducing himself and labels her “Shorty”, or instant messaging a woman on social media constantly with sexual dialogue.  If this is YOU then please stop and Man-up! Real good quality women don’t need to do much to attract men.  All they have to do is look good and dress nice.  While some wo...

Music serves as a great stress reducer, uplifting and can be used as an educational source.  Real Music is the careful arrangement of organized sounds in the form of notes that then result in a smooth blend of rhythm, tone, and pitch that when united, is quite pleasing to the ear.  With everything in life there are two sides to a spectrum and in this case music can be a positive force or a negative influence.  Good music can also be translated into positive way of life while negative music can encrypt codes to behave in a reckless manner.  Here are a few examples. Music Soothes your Soul For example, playing live music to hospital patients can help lower their blood pressure and reduce depression and anxiety, research suggests.  The results of the study being carried out at the Chelsea and Westminster Hospital in London will be used to press the case for music and visual arts to be included in the budget for all new hospitals which is a great idea....