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Uncommitted Pleasure Does Not Equal Committed Obligations By Mel


Is it okay to ask a man to pay for your basic necessities if you’re not in a committed relationship?  I would say from a man’s point of view if there are NO ‘Rules of Engagement’ established and you decided to skip the friend zone/intimacy stage then that man is NOT obligated to pay your bills.  This is a VERY common trait that a lot of women fall for and believe that their ‘sexual temple’ has MORE value than a man’s ‘sexual jewels’ and that’s definitely not the case.  No woman’s ‘sexual temple’ alone can control a man or force him to pay her bills in exchange for amazing sex and I’ll tell you why.  Men are visual and sexual in nature and most ‘Financial wolves’ understand the concept that you have the same thing between your legs that billions of other women have too!  They will use their verbal skills and financial power to hook you in just to smash your chocolate chip cookies and will give you the illusion of being a good provider, a great man or one who will come to your rescue like your knight in shining armor.  You will NEVER know his true intentions because some women were falsely taught that a man is OBLIGATED to pay their bills in exchange for uncommitted sex.  I believe both genders are designed equally to a degree on the same level so if you’re having uncommitted sex with a man who is uncommitted and you expect him to pay your bills then to keep it even YOU should pay his bills as well.  And please, just because he refused doesn’t apply or mean he’s not a good provider or he’s not a good man (especially if he applied at the beginning that he is not looking for NO committed relationship), it applies that he has amazing persuasive skills and he outmaneuver you to achieve his end goal…smashing your chocolate chip cookies. Sadly, you HELP him to achieve his goal with ease…based on your false belief on how a man should behave or act as well as your teachings.  I usually say that ALL relationships are a gamble, it’s up to you place the odds in your favor for the best results.  Be mindful. 

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