Tuesday, August 15, 2017

Uncommitted Pleasure Does Not Equal Committed Obligations By Mel


Is it okay to ask a man to pay for your basic necessities if you’re not in a committed relationship?  I would say from a man’s point of view if there are NO ‘Rules of Engagement’ established and you decided to skip the friend zone/intimacy stage then that man is NOT obligated to pay your bills.  This is a VERY common trait that a lot of women fall for and believe that their ‘sexual temple’ has MORE value than a man’s ‘sexual jewels’ and that’s definitely not the case.  No woman’s ‘sexual temple’ alone can control a man or force him to pay her bills in exchange for amazing sex and I’ll tell you why.  Men are visual and sexual in nature and most ‘Financial wolves’ understand the concept that you have the same thing between your legs that billions of other women have too!  They will use their verbal skills and financial power to hook you in just to smash your chocolate chip cookies and will give you the illusion of being a good provider, a great man or one who will come to your rescue like your knight in shining armor.  You will NEVER know his true intentions because some women were falsely taught that a man is OBLIGATED to pay their bills in exchange for uncommitted sex.  I believe both genders are designed equally to a degree on the same level so if you’re having uncommitted sex with a man who is uncommitted and you expect him to pay your bills then to keep it even YOU should pay his bills as well.  And please, just because he refused doesn’t apply or mean he’s not a good provider or he’s not a good man (especially if he applied at the beginning that he is not looking for NO committed relationship), it applies that he has amazing persuasive skills and he outmaneuver you to achieve his end goal…smashing your chocolate chip cookies. Sadly, you HELP him to achieve his goal with ease…based on your false belief on how a man should behave or act as well as your teachings.  I usually say that ALL relationships are a gamble, it’s up to you place the odds in your favor for the best results.  Be mindful. 

Sunday, June 11, 2017

Dear Brothers Dear Sisters Listen Up!


The wait is FINALLY over.  Dear Brothers, Dear Sisters Listen Up! is a knowledge guide on relationships that contains advice on how to avoid the traps and pitfalls that accompany dating and relationships for both men and women. This book covers the groundwork that will help individuals grow themselves into positive relationship ready form so that they are prepared for true love when it arrives. Each chapter exposes the reader to fundamentally dysfunctional behaviors that work against healthy relationships by explaining philosophies behind relationship dynamics. Short fictional examples of failed relationships are provided to give readers the opportunity to assess problems by taking an observer perspective. Each chapter also contains experience solutions that will help to change the way individuals view relationships, dating and love. You can also place your order through Amazon.  Buy a copy and write your review today! Click the link below.

Thursday, May 18, 2017

Dear Brothers Dear Sisters Listen UP! Book summary by: Mel


In about two months Mel and I will be publishing our book Dear Brothers Dear Sisters Listen Up! We want to take a few minutes to give you an overview of the book.

Dear Brother, Dear Sisters Listen Up! is a knowledge guide that contains advice on how to avoid the traps and pitfalls that accompany dating and relationships for both men and women.

This book covers the groundwork that will help individuals grow themselves into positive relationship ready form so that they are prepared for true love when it arrives. Each chapter exposes the reader to fundamentally dysfunctional behaviors that work against healthy relationships by explaining philosophy’s behind relationship dynamics.

Short fictional examples of failed relationships are provided to give readers the opportunity to assess problems by taking an observer perspective. Each chapter also contains experienced solutions that will help to change the way individuals view relationships and love.

The knowledge within Dear Brother, Dear Sisters Listen Up! will make it fun to date again, it will make it easy for you to spot warning signals, it will help you decide when to stay and when to leave, and it will assist you in finding that one man or woman that you have been searching for.


Each chapter is written for either men or women with the goal or intent of giving the reader information that will help them make changes that will support healthy relationships. Chapters may contain a Wisdom letter that starts with the Dear Brothers or Dear Sisters. The Wisdom letters can be looked at as the basis for each chapter. Here is an example of one of the Wisdom letters:

Dear Thirsty Brothers, STOP settling for bottom of the barrel type of women.  Instead, step YOUR mental game up and watch endless opportunities in your life begin to open.  High quality, classy women will appear in your life. But FIRST you must change your mind set. 

Wednesday, April 26, 2017

Dear Brothers, Dear Sisters, Listen Up! By Mel


Dear Supportive Brothers and Sisters,
Very soon Dear Brothers Dear Sisters Listen Up! book will be available on Amazon. Look for it. In the meantime you can read this chapter by clicking the link below. Feedback is highly welcome. Enjoy and once again thank you ALL for your love and support! 👓

Friday, March 17, 2017

Pursuit Indicator By Mel


I knew this fellow brother who’s been single for a very long time.  Has a great career yet does not have a companion by his side.  I noticed, whenever he sees a beautiful woman he gets excited (like a little boy in the candy store).  Listen he said to himself that he is tired of being solo.  A few reasons why he’s been solo for a very long time is related to his approach structure and preconceived notion of chasing a woman until she changes her mind and settles down with him.  It was this one woman who was not interested he found very attractive that he felt she was the one for him.  At first he would buy her gifts, give her money but overtime it went from stage green (chasing) to stage yellow (desperation) to stage red (stalking).  I mean, my brother was showing up at her job announced.  Driving passed her gym to see if she’s available.  That’s what I call the Pursuit Indicator and also that’s a sign you sisters should look out for as well.  After stage red she decided to get a restraining order on him.  My thought on this matter is that you don't want to be like this brother.  Chasing is a sign of desperation and shows a woman that you do not value yourself.  Some brothers are superficial and will allow some women to be disrespectful towards them or continue to be rejected.  In a woman's eyes this shows you as less desirable.  That's why I believe it should be mutual efforts on both ends meaning both parties should pour in equal energy.  Change your mindset.
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Tuesday, February 7, 2017

Relationship Straight Talk!


Dear Brothers Dear Sisters,
It has come to our attention that many of you were unable to log onto the show yesterday. We know that some people had to try a few different browsers before they could log on, and this is unacceptable. We are in contact with TalkZone to resolve this issue and expect that this will not be an issue on our March 10th show.
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Real talk for Real Relationships!
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Tuesday, January 10, 2017

Cosmetic Politicians By Mel


This generation seems to be drawn into the Hollywood land where propaganda rules everything.  Those who have no media literacy cannot tell the difference between fiction and non-fiction which can have dire consequences in our society.  Back then, TV was used as a medium to educate the masses, now cosmetic appearance replaced real base information.  It has even selected our new president Donald Trump.  This is why you must read between the lines when you are focus on the media.  One of my favorite movies which explained this theory pretty well is titled, “The Matrix” where the character Neo’s mind is imprison within an artificial reality.  I feel the same logic applies in today’s society because people now based their actions off of emotions instead of thinking things through.  I will give you an example, last year’s election quite honestly was based off of emotion.  Today’s politicians disregard issues affecting the American people.  What these slimy worms used in placed are slogans to build a strong rapport to disengage the public thought process.  It is a very manipulative way to obtain and remain in power.  This is why it is so important to educate yourself and understand our laws that may affect your way of living.  Most people try to get all philosophical about withholding their vote which is such a poor lazy excuse to challenge the system.  In order to change the game you have to participate in the game, plain and simple.  Work on educating yourself and stop allowing the media to deceive you.