Dear Brothers, Don't Chase For The Sake Of Chasing By Mel

We hear this all the time that men are supposed to be the hunters and do whatever it takes to win a woman’s heart. That may be true to a certain extent but I would advise my fellow brothers to not take this at full-face value. Most men have been taught this method growing up including myself. Truthfully with this way of thinking, there is no balance in place between both parties and if a relationship was to blossom the structure or foundation will be lopsided. Let me give you an example….

I knew this fellow brother who’s been single for a very long time. He has a great career yet does not have a companion by his side. I noticed, whenever he sees a beautiful woman he gets excited (like a little boy in the candy store) which sends out desperation energy in which women can sense. A few reasons why he’s been lonely for a long time is related to his approach structure and preconceived notion of desperately chasing a woman until she changes her mind and settles down with him. For instance, it was this one woman he found very attractive but the problem was she was not attracted to him. At first, he would buy her gifts, give her money but over time it went from stage green (chasing) to stage yellow (desperation) to stage red (stalking). It became so bad that he took it upon himself to show up at her job unannounced and drive passed her gym to see if she’s available. That’s what I call the ‘Pursuit Indicator’ and also that’s a sign for my fellow sisters to look out for. After stage red, she decided to get a restraining order on him. I do feel that a man should engage a woman first, however, if she’s not attracted to him I would advise him to move on.

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Don't Thirst Your Way Into The Rejected Pile By Mel

Men, you have the power to change. Your standard of living and philosophical mindset based on thirsty behavior is not setting a good example. Classy women will throw you automatically into the rejected pile if they sense this way of thinking. What concerns me the most is how brothers market themselves onto the dating scene and the assumption they make when they speak to a beautiful woman. Money flashers believe it is a walk in the park that they can get any woman they want. Most thirsty men try to impress women with their financial assets. They believe this technique will force a woman to throw herself at their feet. When fantasy becomes reality or they get rejected they proclaim that a woman is stuck up which is far from the truth. To be honest, no sophisticated female wants to be whistle, bark at or grab in an awkward way from a stranger and I do not blame them. I have a daughter, and I expect men to treat my little princess as a human being when she gets older, not an o

Date Smarter, not Harder By: Mel

Way too many guys pay attention to women based on THEIR attraction level. They will waste their time and hard earned money on a woman who is not attracted to them at all. It's always a better experience to go out with someone who's just as excited and enthusiastic to be with you compared to someone who you have to warm up. You should want to spend time with women who appreciate and value your time. Always pay attention to her action, not what she says. Date smarter, not harder.

BE who you ARE, not who the World wants you to BE By Mel

Life is full surprises. When you’re out there in the field you get a sense that all eyes are on you. That oil to your engine is confidence . Every ounce in your body engages you to stay well groomed, sell your image, build your vocabulary and practice on your art or goals in life. That’s a very attractive trait to have and I will tell you why. The love you put inside yourself shines externally which creates this invisible aura. It creates offensive projections defined as the way you carry yourself or how you interact with people combine with defensive measures such as keeping your guard up and not allowing people to take advantage of you. We all have our moments when we navigate in unfamiliar territory. For example, giving your time and effort to someone who shortchanged you or getting laid off from a promising career just because you challenged the status quo. Sometimes you feel betrayed but let me share something with you. To succeed in life you must fa

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