Dear Brothers, Dear Sisters Listen Up

  As a man it is very important to have a unique style of dressing whether it is professional, churchy or casual just to name a few can express your characteristics.   A confident man understands that you dress for success to impress yourself and no one else.   You have to picture yourself that you are a product package design to sell yourself within the World we live in today because let’s face it, the world revolves around selling.   Appropriate dressing is also a way of expressing respect for the situation and the people in it. Your dress attire can be design to sell yourself to a gorgeous female or a dream job to get your foot in the door to have a long lasting career.   Here are some tips that can help sharpen your wardrobe even if you have a limited amount of outfits. Ball up a plastic bag and stuff it deep within your sneaker/shoe to the very tip to keep it nicely shape. This technique is what keeps your footwear from collapsing.   The...

  I know a lot of clones who try to keep up with the Jones will spend any amount of money to impress the next person.   Their priorities are out of order because their mental capacity is program from the media on the latest trends in fashion to their favorite celebrity tattoos or if they have the same immaculate vehicle that Jay-Z is driving thinking maybe they can attract their own Queen B.     Just by observing their outside appearance alone can be deceiving.   When you spend more than you can save your financial freedom is in jeopardy.   However, brothers don’t understand the difference between “Short-term attractions” versus “Long-term attractions.”   Here are a few examples, ·         Short-term attraction :   2015 BMW 428i Convertible, immaculate vehicle with a whopping car note along with full coverage insurance, vehicle cost $48,750.   Will attract beautiful superficial females who want ...

In today’s relationship landscape your first impression counts.   It can boil down between rejection and getting to know someone on a whole different level.   I had the pleasure to speak with April D. to pinpoint some simple solutions to help you improve your connection with women.   Enjoy. Mel:   What separates a man from a boy? April:   A man is responsible, knows how to take care of home and keep his pants up.   One who is a good parent and spiritually grounded.   One who is stable and always looking for ways to improve himself.    A boy is someone that’s not responsible, going to the club every weekend.   One who is always leeching off of people and unable to hold a steady job.   One who is always in trouble with the law or hanging outside on the street corners. Mel:   I agree, lots of drama can make you go crazy.   You mention a man must keep his pants up which means you like a man with fashion, what’s...

  Being a father who is involved in my daughter’s life is extremely important.   However both parents have to be there to raise their child in what is known as the “Electronic Age.”   Years ago when it was less technology our minds were more “typographic” meaning we read more books.   Words can foster the analytic management of knowledge compare to today’s electronic mind using tablets to scroll down to check their latest news feed on their Facebook page.   Even in the poorest ghetto the minimum standard electronic device in their home the “TV,” is a fast-paced and open admission to everything with no cognitive, physical, economic or imaginative restraints.   Sadly this reduces the traditional distance between children and adults.   Strong parents are now competing with Little Trey’s favorite TV show “Power,” which provides an authentic feel to the environment he is so used to; a show that also provides Little Trey an alternative view on how he sho...

If you’re in your mid 30’s or just turned 40, you shouldn’t be in the club every weekend. Guys, you seriously don’t want to be the sleazy old man in the club. And ladies, you shouldn’t be out getting your drink on, leaving your fourteen year old teenager to watch your younger kids. The fact is, even when we were all young, the chances that men and women could find a meaning full relationship in a club was next to zero, but closer to 5%. “Wait a minute”, you may ask, “how can that be quantified?” I’ll explain. Simply, when we go out to the clubs, 90% of the men are trying to get with 10% of the women and 90% of the women are trying to get with 10% of the men. So, the likelihood that there will be any kind of real hookup is 5%, half of 10%. Besides, the club is a terrible place to meet someone. They are overly hyped by the radio station and promoters, who make it seem like your life will end if you don’t go to their club Friday and Saturday nights. Additionally, the mixed alco...

  Sometimes when we come across someone who we are extremely attracted to we subconsciously do not reveal who we truly are.  This is what I call " False Advertising " which means pretending to be someone else to appeal to a person who you are attracted to.   This all goes back to low-confidence because most men who discover to their own delight that if a beautiful female shows a little bit of friendliness he assumes that she is highly attracted to him.   With no rapport building to see if they have some sort of emotional connection he then abandons his self-identity just to please her.  This is where he gives his power away based alone on visual aspect without this woman even putting minimal effort in to show she is interested in him. Little Trey's logical mind instantly goes into character mode.  For example, he begins to text her non-stop with little to no feedback or purchasing expensive flowers every day delivered to her job.   Sadly, this t...

Yes, this is very true.   Brothers who violate this rule prove that they are insecure within themselves.   They worry about what the next brother is wearing, how much money he makes, what kind of car he drives, etc.   Meanwhile their mind is fixated on you and wonders why your format is not the same as theirs.   Why are you not following the latest trend in fashion?   Why are you not driving the latest car?   This makes me sick to my stomach.   If you come across one of these “ Clones ” do not panic, get nervous or be embarrassed.   Instead their opinion of you should be irrelevant because deep down inside they wish they WERE you. Let me explain, a “ Clone ” is a person who does not have a mind of their own. Within this cultural landscape he will follow his flock of sheep and they are not hard to find.   Just go to the latest club, take a walk downtown or even look out your window. For example, Little Trey may wear skinny jeans with his...