In today’s relationship landscape your first impression counts. It can boil down between rejection and getting to know someone on a whole different level. I had the pleasure to speak with April D. to pinpoint some simple solutions to help you improve your connection with women. Enjoy.
Mel: What separates a man from a boy?
April: A man is responsible, knows how to take care of home and keep his pants up. One who is a good parent and spiritually grounded. One who is stable and always looking for ways to improve himself. A boy is someone that’s not responsible, going to the club every weekend. One who is always leeching off of people and unable to hold a steady job. One who is always in trouble with the law or hanging outside on the street corners.
Mel: I agree, lots of drama can make you go crazy. You mention a man must keep his pants up which means you like a man with fashion, what’s the first thing you notice about a man that tells you somewhat of his style?
April: His shoes, it tells me if he has style and good hygiene which tells me he knows how to take care of himself. I think that’s extremely attractive.
Mel: Why do you think there are so many single women out there today?
April: Well from my experience dealing with guys they play a lot of games. For example, they don’t say what they mean and like to juggle more than one female at a time.
Mel: So in other words, they have you as their star player while they have other women off the bench?
April: Exactly, it’s like a game to them.
Mel: What’s your definition of a thirsty dude?
April: A stalker, one who blows up your phone constantly with text messages and phone calls.
Mel: I know a lot of women would agree with you. So they are to aggressive? But don’t a female want a guy to give them lots of attention?
April: Yes, but not too eager. They need to slow it down and let things flow. Give us room to breathe.
Mel: But you have to admit, women play games as well.
April: Not as much as guys, women usually play games after they get their feelings hurt. We get emotionally wounded.
Mel: I can see it from your point of view. So when you are out on a date with a guy, what’s the number one thing he should NOT do?
April: When paying for dinner, he should not pull out lots of money to show off. Just be yourself and understand not every woman is flatter by money. Women are more interested with the connection with the mind and if you are goal-oriented.
Mel: So tell me in the same scenario if you are out on a date with a guy, what SHOULD he do?
April: Be respectfully and listen to what she has to say so you can build a mental connection with her. That’s extremely important. Don’t get side track with her looks because we can sense it. We like the fact that not only are you attracted to our physical features but our mind as well.
Mel: Very true, what are the three things you look for in a man?
April: Loyalty, honesty and respect.
Mel: Nice! Thank you so much April D. for your time, it was great talking to you. Hope to hear from you again.
April: You will Mel and thank you, it was my pleasure.