Looking for a Gem when she’s really a Rock By Mel

Why do men go CRAZY over beautiful women? I believe a large portion is the cosmetology make-up distribute by the media. It programs particular codes within our brain which inform us who and what we are attracted to. We are VERY visual creatures and sometimes we have a habit of not peeling off the layers of a person. For example, most men will literally use every pick-up line and strategic move to engage a woman who looks like Beyoncé because the mass media applies that she is the most beautiful woman in the world. Fact, you can come across a woman who is physically attractive on the outside and your inner circle is influencing your decision to wife her. Weak minded men are very superficial because they view women as special objects not as people. Most men who have this mindset bypass the natural evaluation to mentally view women who are truly compatible with them. This is where the term thirst comes into play because shallow men put attractive women on a pedestal base on appearance which can have severe consequences. Not knowing their potential mates inner thoughts or background can cause problems later on in a relationship. You see, it goes beyond a pretty smile and a nice body. A woman should be supportive, nurturing, respectful and trustworthy. Here are some deep layers of a woman that you may want to look into beyond her looks.

Spirituality Grounded: Believers mix with non-believers leads to conflicting ideologies which can create problems down the road.

Financially Stable: Gold digger is the old school term for non-independent women who selfishly want a man to provide them with materialistic gifts without earning them. In other words she will be a financial burden to you. Be mindful; make sure she is a goal getter. This way you both can financially work towards your goals together.

Mental Stimulation: It should be more than just sex to engage a woman. Sex should be an extra bonus. The truth of the matter is a woman of your choosing should be able to hold a conversation. Nothing is worse than having a good looking female who is simple-minded and lacks good communication skills.

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