Looking for a Gem when she’s really a Rock By Mel

Why do men go CRAZY over beautiful women? I believe a large portion is the cosmetology make-up distribute by the media. It programs particular codes within our brain which inform us who and what we are attracted to. We are VERY visual creatures and sometimes we have a habit of not peeling off the layers of a person. For example, most men will literally use every pick-up line and strategic move to engage a woman who looks like Beyoncé because the mass media applies that she is the most beautiful woman in the world. Fact, you can come across a woman who is physically attractive on the outside and your inner circle is influencing your decision to wife her. Weak minded men are very superficial because they view women as special objects not as people. Most men who have this mindset bypass the natural evaluation to mentally view women who are truly compatible with them. This is where the term thirst comes into play because shallow men put attractive women on a pedestal base on appearance which can have severe consequences. Not knowing their potential mates inner thoughts or background can cause problems later on in a relationship. You see, it goes beyond a pretty smile and a nice body. A woman should be supportive, nurturing, respectful and trustworthy. Here are some deep layers of a woman that you may want to look into beyond her looks.

Spirituality Grounded: Believers mix with non-believers leads to conflicting ideologies which can create problems down the road.

Financially Stable: Gold digger is the old school term for non-independent women who selfishly want a man to provide them with materialistic gifts without earning them. In other words she will be a financial burden to you. Be mindful; make sure she is a goal getter. This way you both can financially work towards your goals together.

Mental Stimulation: It should be more than just sex to engage a woman. Sex should be an extra bonus. The truth of the matter is a woman of your choosing should be able to hold a conversation. Nothing is worse than having a good looking female who is simple-minded and lacks good communication skills.

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Don't Thirst Your Way Into The Rejected Pile By Mel

Men, you have the power to change. Your standard of living and philosophical mindset based on thirsty behavior is not setting a good example. Classy women will throw you automatically into the rejected pile if they sense this way of thinking. What concerns me the most is how brothers market themselves onto the dating scene and the assumption they make when they speak to a beautiful woman. Money flashers believe it is a walk in the park that they can get any woman they want. Most thirsty men try to impress women with their financial assets. They believe this technique will force a woman to throw herself at their feet. When fantasy becomes reality or they get rejected they proclaim that a woman is stuck up which is far from the truth. To be honest, no sophisticated female wants to be whistle, bark at or grab in an awkward way from a stranger and I do not blame them. I have a daughter, and I expect men to treat my little princess as a human being when she gets older, not an o

Date Smarter, not Harder By: Mel

Way too many guys pay attention to women based on THEIR attraction level. They will waste their time and hard earned money on a woman who is not attracted to them at all. It's always a better experience to go out with someone who's just as excited and enthusiastic to be with you compared to someone who you have to warm up. You should want to spend time with women who appreciate and value your time. Always pay attention to her action, not what she says. Date smarter, not harder.

BE who you ARE, not who the World wants you to BE By Mel

Life is full surprises. When you’re out there in the field you get a sense that all eyes are on you. That oil to your engine is confidence . Every ounce in your body engages you to stay well groomed, sell your image, build your vocabulary and practice on your art or goals in life. That’s a very attractive trait to have and I will tell you why. The love you put inside yourself shines externally which creates this invisible aura. It creates offensive projections defined as the way you carry yourself or how you interact with people combine with defensive measures such as keeping your guard up and not allowing people to take advantage of you. We all have our moments when we navigate in unfamiliar territory. For example, giving your time and effort to someone who shortchanged you or getting laid off from a promising career just because you challenged the status quo. Sometimes you feel betrayed but let me share something with you. To succeed in life you must fa

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