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The Importance of a Father By Mel

Being a Single Active Father is the best gift in the world.  I have no respect for donors who are men not involved in their child’s life.  These are men who are more involved in liquor hop shopping, talking to multiple females, and living the life as a cheap version of Scarface.  To be there for your little one is more than just the physical aspect. Your child’s coping behavior and reaction can stem from your non-presence.  Single Mothers should not have to carry the burden to raise a child on their own and no, this is not a male bashing blog.  I understand some women out there are trifling; some will use their child as a weapon to collect more money from a hardworking man.  Some women who have three baby daddies in which two are not working and refuse to take them to court for child support.  However they will try to get more money to raise their other kids from the one father who is responsible and takes care of his only child.  Some women feel that they do not need a positive father in their child’s life and their nurturing skills alone are enough to raise their child.  Not true, in fact according to a study done by the U.S. Department of Education, “An active and nurturing style of fathering is associated with better verbal skills, intellectual functioning, and academic achievement among adolescents.”  Yes I know the pitfalls and life sometimes is not fear but being there for your child is a rewarding experience.   No matter what the financial obstacle, visitation rights, and custody battles you may endure your child will appreciate your effort as she/he gets older.  Domino effects in life do happen so for example if you get laid off from your job, dust off your shoulders grind and get two until you save enough money to make major moves.  And I mean grind which is handling your business in a legal fashion which consist of hard work, dedication and pride not hustle which is handling your business by any means necessary.  If your daughter or son’s mother is non-negotiable then fight like hell in court to show her that you want to be involved in the decision making process for the well-being of your child.  Do not be afraid to challenge the system or become another statistic of a father who is not engage in your child’s life.  Show the world that you have the capability to raise your child in all 3 environmental settings: home, school, and your community. 


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