Dear Brothers, Dear Sisters Listen Up

  In his first interview with ABC News Officer Darren Wilson who fatally shot unarmed teenager Michal Brown said he is not tormented by that fateful encounter in suburban St. Louis last summer.   How can someone fear for their life when they are fully armed?   Why didn’t the officer use other means to settle the dispute instead of taking a life?   When the Ferguson grand jury has decided not to indict Officer Darren Wilson in the shooting death of Michal Brown violent riots begin to occur.   You can’t make sense out of chaos especially in this case.    The mass media is covering all angles to a city inflamed with outrage as they attempt to challenge the system to obtain justice.   What’s worse is announcing the verdict at 8:30PM by Prosecutor Attorney Robert McCulloch was foolish knowing the outcome would be controversial will put businesses, children, young adults and the elderly in danger from rioters.   Those who are in power who comm...

  Does he constantly text you every five minutes?   Gets jealous if other guys are looking at you?   Focus all his attention on you and has nothing else going on in his life?   When you first met him did he call you “shorty,” “babe” or pinch your arm in the club and try to arm drag you over?  Did he instant message you countless times in your Facebook account?   These are red flags you need to look out for.   Many women fall into these traps because at first they want a stable relationship.   A true man would want other men to look at his woman and admire her.   It should be a compliment that other men want what they cannot have.   He should have his own goals in which will propel  you both to the next level instead of just focusing all his attention on you.   He should approach you in a gentlemen way by asking you what is your name and if you decline then respectfully move on to the next woman who is int...

  Back then growing up in my social environment we played “hide-and-seek” which was a very popular game in the hood.   One person would close his or her eyes, count to ten and then seek the other hiders.   The first one who is found is the next seeker.   Other simplistic games such as “Monkey in the Middle,” “Tag Football” or building a tree house were universal to a wide range of kids in different neighborhoods.   Then you had some games strictly dedicated to girls like “Hop Scotch” and “Double Dutch.”   Working parents did not worry too much because these particular activities kept us out of trouble.   The “YMCA,” “Boys and Girls Club” just a mile across town “The Q-House” memberships were very affordable (roughly $20/mo.), had flexible hours for working parents to pick up their kids after work even on the weekends.   It was amazing, kids socializing with each other, positive mentors available to assist you with homework and guiding you i...

   The content of violence on television has shaped U.S. culture in society.   It amplifies people’s emotions, engages the young audience to extreme views in which sometimes the viewer’s perception becomes reality.   I feel when there is no parental guidance in the home, television provides an alternative source to plug in influential codes in a child’s mind who accept what they hear and see is the norm in society. Albert Bandura, a psychologist developed “Social Learning Theory“ in which we learn how to act both in private as well in public by certain behavior on television.   This process is known as modeling or imitation.   For example the “WWE” a wrestling promotion owned by Vince McMahon which promotes extreme violence to approximately 320 televised and non-televised events a year broadcasting to about 36 million viewers in more than 150 countries according to WWE Corporate Live and Televised Entertainment.   The WWE creates a script-based com...

Women always say they want a nice guy.   One who is stable, faithful, have a great sense of humor.   One who will spend an abundance amount of money on them.   However, after evaluating some of these relationships most women show they would rather be with a thug or a bad guy and here’s the reason why.   Clingy men are very insecure with a voluminous persona that screams “thirsty” by their actions.   Women are more observant then men so when they notice this type of behavior it translates to them that they are a pushover even though they treat them like a queen.   Women respect men who are confident, ambitious and most importantly one who does not tolerate drama even if she is extremely beautiful.   Most men subconscious are image driven which unfortunately allows certain women to get anything they want based on their gorgeous looks.   Desperate nice guys fall into these traps because they believe the more they spoil as well as accept drama ...

Father! - To God himself we cannot give a holier name by William Wordsworth is such a powerful quote.   I would like to say single and non-residential fathers are portrayed in the media as irresponsible and non-supportive to their kids.   Well, I’m here to share with you through some research that it is not entirely true.   Even though single and non-residential fathers as a whole are an understudied group there’s still some truth that single and supportive non-residential fathers do exist.   Some fathers are working 2 part-time jobs and are unable to get government assistance.   The media rarely report positive fathers working 7 days a week with no days off, struggling paycheck to paycheck.    For myself as a non-residential father, I still support my daughter in every aspect, however the role of a father is never recognize or acknowledge for my continuous involvement.   ·          A Non-resident...

    At the end of the show they usually spin a positive message from a therapist or a counselor to defuse the situation.   Today’s topic titled, “Deadbeat Dad, 6 baby mamas, are you my Daddy?” Prior to this turn of event Little Trey, an African-American who does not have a job refuse to take any responsibility to raise his kids.   First he called his baby mama’s mother a “bitch”, claims that all 6 of his baby’s mamas are hoes while he is giving the middle finger to the audience.   Then Maury instigates by asking a lame ass question such as, “Did you have unprotected safe with Laquita?”   It’s like watching a modern day minstrel version of “The Amos ‘n’ Andy Show” meaning how can this program be labeled a talk show where as it is extreme yelling mix with verbal/physical violence?   Why most of Jerry Springer, Maury, Steve Wilko, and Bill Cunningham guests are mostly minorities?   Well because the creators understand the midst of a cultural s...

On the eve of the next national election, I would like to emphasize the importance of voting.   Now I don’t write this to scrutinize the life choices many of us that are lower income.   Everyone at some time in their life will need a help up. I am old enough to know what government cheese and free lunch is. But instead, to highlight a discouraging trend. The trend is folks who need to vote, do it the least and complain the most. So, let me explain. If you receive section 8, food stamps, WIC, housing, job training, Medicare, VA benefits, free lunch for your kids, etc., you should be voting on Nov, 4 th . If we don’t vote in mass, the other party will be taking over and they are not the biggest fans of social programs.   In 2008, we voted in record numbers to elect the first black President. We let him down in 2010 when many of us stayed home and allowed the Tea Party to make his presidency hell. If you don’t vote this election, many of the programs that you and your fam...

  Unfortunately, those who do not vote thinking their voice will not be heard become mute in the whole process of American democracy.   This allows the opposing point of view to retain power to create policies that may not benefit you.   Ironically, some of the most well-rounded, educated people I know will refuse to vote.   Instead, they complain about investments not being distributed to the right areas in this country.   Some people I know will wait in line for food stamps or other governmental aid not knowing their poor decision of not voting is a “silent partnership” created by both parties.   One who may cut YOUR benefits while the other is at home watching mindless television which means; they approved their quality way of life to be determined by someone else who they may disagree with.   For example, if you lost your job more than likely you may support an extension of unemployment benefits, however for some insane reason you refuse to v...

  When communication is cut off the chit chatter in some relationships can turn into a mix batter.   Physical abuse towards men is not a myth; although a man is physically stronger than a woman there are those who use extreme violence as a way to control their relationship.   Normally the way society is structure is that men are raise to have a shell shock exterior, less conversational in exchange for more action and train not to show emotions or else they are label as soft.   Domestic violence towards men lack resources, men in these situations are embarrass to reach out, the rules of disengagement no longer exist.   Emotional control or having mutual respect for each other is thrown out the window.   Furthermore, certain women who find it challenging to engage with their partner in a calm manner instead replace it with rage which has a devastating effect on both parties especially if kids are involved.   According to The National Coalition of ...